He wore (still does) a yarmulke every day. Sara F. says:why is it that shikzah's love the jewboys and jewish girls could give a rats ass about jewboys?----------------------I have this theory, in my case at least, that it's Darwinism at its best (to prevent inbreeding). We just want to do it right, which is why it's not a full engagement.He is Jewish and would like a Jewish wedding and for our kids to be Jewish. I had a similar talk with my boyfriend and his religion, he's muslim.. but more culturally than anything. Relationship with God? It would surely make things easier with his family and all that, but it's not a deal breaker. Hello, I’m a catholic girl wanting to convert to Islam. And there is no requirement for you to share with him that you don't believe any of it. In this tough economy, you better believe giving charity is a test of faith too. 1. ;), mine just wears his to hide his bald head ;p, :P Who knew that that would be one of the added perks of a yamaka? He is happy to support me in raising our son Jewish, which I appreciate.It's easier for us, since my son is considered Jewish because it's passed down by the mom (me).If you have any interest / curiousity, I'd suggest taking a class or two about Judaism. That is a good thing as Islam seeks educated, thoughtful, and contemplative decision-making. Do you want to convert? If Obama can be President, how could anyone lament that times have change?There is perhaps some benefit to studying Judaism, and learning the practices. But see, I have issues with going through the motions of converting when I actually do not believe in any of it. I guess my religious beliefs just mean too much to me. Have I thoroughly researched other faiths? I would wait until I have graduated and have a steady job. Stay aware of your surroundings people. To know Prophet Muhammad is to know Islam. This almost seems like a no-brainer but is so crucial that it cannot be emphasized enough. According to Pew Research, "Two-thirds (67 percent) of all converts to Islam in the U.S. came from Protestant churches, 10 percent came from Catholicism, and just five percent from other religions. But in general, I notice that even the non religious usually believe in a higher being, anyway. And finally, this has to be a yes. Converting to Judaism isn't necessarily easy, so you should really learn about the process first. It apparently doesn't count if the father is but the mother isn't--that's what he meant. YOU CAN CHOOSE FROM PHANTOM FEARS AND KINDNESS THAT CAN KILL. Ultimately, though, God is your final witness. You must be asking, what does studying other faiths have to do with Islam? as someone who was fascinated by genetic engineering (what it was called at the time) this confused, interested, and humored me, greatly. I find it all to be very enjoyable and in line with me. Judaism, like every other religion, needs to change with the times in order to remain relevant. I accept this for my fiance and signed it. The Reconstructionist movement, allowing girls to be bat mitzvah'd, allowing women to be rabbis and ordaining women as rabbis are just a few of the changes that have occurred in Judaism in the last hundred years. I know women who did this, but each situation has its own unique dynamics, so you can't compare to them. Would he have married her had she not agreed to convert-probably not. But as you can see, there is much to consider. If not I would seriously recommend it before you become anymore serious because you can really learn a lot about yourself and your relationship by living with your partner. Some really are easier to work with than others. Raised in a Catholic environment, Adam's family was conservative and had little experience with Islam outside of news pundits and the media. I'm a muslim girl from south make east asia. To Amy R.:I honestly do not know if I want to convert. If you don't mind going through with the charade for rest of your life just to keep the family happy, then go ahead. You will only find yourself distancing yourself from it. That is definitely something I will look into because I have been under the impression that it is a must for the children to really be considered Jewish. And there are rabbis that will do interfaith weddings.In the meantime, is this a deal-breaker for your boyfriend? Thanks for everyone's comments! I'm Kohein). I had a really serious boyfriend for whom I considered converting to Judaism. It can be done. I have a friend who is always asking me to go to church with him, even though he knows I'm agnostic. It's based on a story in Yiddish by Shalom Alechem, so it's very authentic. I plan to read some literature and figure it out. In Reform Communities converting usually is not an issue. The law is, mom must be Jewish for the kids to be Jewish..that's the law. I believe the religion is matrilineal so you would have to convert if you wanted your children to be Jewish. Is this guy asking you to do it or telling you to do it? He never asked me to convert for the sake of the kids, though it would have pleased his family. Your record is now clean and you should try to keep your record clean as much as possible. Depends on his mindset. He would be fine if I decided that I did not convert. Don't let anyone rush you, and don't rush yourself. don't do it. I might have turned into a deliquent if they had left me there. Facebook. To Marie K.:Well, like I said we aren't in any rush. If the atheists and agnostics don't put their foot down against the hypocrisy of religion, we are just perpetuating the bullshit of all the rules and regulations of organized religion. It's your life and your decision.If he knew he'd want Jewish babies so bad to please his parents then he should've dated Jewish girls only. 2. The converts in our family,all women, converted for relationship reasons at first and really got into being Jewish afterwards...I mean observing Shabbos , going kosher,observing all holidays (and there are quite a few), and making sure their children get a Jewish education. Islam is in fact a way of life. Anywhoo...here is my 2 cents. How sincere is that faith if it was only adopted to please another, or to affect a change in the heart of another? labels. Aside from the two main branches of Sunni and Shia Muslims most commonly known, within each branch many variations exist. I belong to the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community, which is unique for two reasons. Get your conversion on girl. We all wish the worldwide Ummah (Muslim community) were united. 4. (Incidentally the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community is the fastest growing sect of Islam). For me, I had to sign a contract with the Catholic Church stating that we will raise our kids catholic (which I don't have a problem with how ever I do not agree with all the catholic teachings). Lol. 2x.We are all from the same tribe (actually, there were originally 12, now its all the same. You can't really change who you are, not like that.As I said, all that is evaporating. Before embracing Islam, be sure to spend time studying the faith, reading books, and learning from other Muslims. And I hope no one thinks that I would then have to disregard my ethnicity and culture. Make sure it is the right decision for you first as you are making a promise the relationship apparently needs to work out. 4 minutes ago Tom "Some people call me the Space Cowboy" R. says:Tsada K. says:The only man I would convert for is Bill Maher.Wait...what?=======================Isn't he an atheist?--------------------Sort of...he's agnostic--hence the "wait...what? This was a reality for Adam, and is for many who accept Islam. again, she was reform...when i asked why... roomie told me that in order for the children to be considered jewish that the mother's ovum was what determined what the child would be born...and NOT the father's sperm. If he is a bit liberal then you may continue. I’ve had 8 sexual partners, I lie, drink, smoke. It might have been easier if I had, but it worked out well. Me and my boyfriend broke up. As for your situation? ----------------------In order to be considered "Jewish", the mother has to be Jewish. Hey, I'm Chinese (mom) and Jewish (dad). Islam itself is … Whoopsie.youtube.com/watch?v=MYzG…. Getty Lee is the Bassist/Vocalist for the band Rush. Would you be prepared to get married? Assallamu Alaikum sister, before I answer I would like to apologize in advance if my answer may seem harsh. let's be lesbians! I'm Jewish (more culturally identified like your BF) and married to a non-Jewish guy. I'm in the same situation as you are in. Islam is a lifelong journey and people work at different speeds. don't start your life together on a lie. My cousin (Jewish) married a woman who's Chinese American, and she didn't convert either...but now, five years later, she's taking classes at the synagogue and is really interested in possibly converting. The best 'weapon' to combat ignorance and intolerance of Islam is education -- so educate yourself as much as possible by studying the Qur'an, hadith, and classical Islamic scholars. It is like a good form of Karate I think, or learning a musical instrument. I love the focus on family, friendship and food. The reason I am telling it now, is because someone recently asked me if I was planning to convert for my husband and it kind of caught me off guard. Traditionally speaking in Judaism conversions are actually discouraged. It can be any religion. So far we've outlasted both our parent's marriages, as well as all of our sibling's marriages, and are still very much in love. Bleep is absolutely correct. I’ve lived a life of sin. He used to be Catholic, but isn't into it or any organized religion for that matter. We make latkes during Hanukkah and lechon (roasted pork) for Christmas. jewish is not a race. Others I have dated have been of several different religious backgrounds, but I would never change mine to appease anyone. Take the time to read and study the Qur'an. She loves her life and loves being connected to Judaism. Indeed, Prophet Muhammad famously declared, "The cure for ignorance is to question," and "It is obligatory for every Muslim male and every Muslim female to attain education." 70 different Qur'an translations for free here. I wish you the best and hope you figure out what it is you want to do! Islam has certain regulations about several aspects of our … This conversation is monumentally stupid.And if someone calls you Getty Lee it might not be a compliment. Devout Muslim and Physics Nobel Laureate Dr. Abdus Salam -- who won for predicting the God particle -- attributed his passion for science to the Qur'ans incessant advocacy to question everything. I happen to carry the genes for TaySachs and Canavan (deadly birth defects found more commonly in Jewish populations) and my gentile husband doesn't. I've never conferted for a partner, but I did go through the motions to please my parents. Yes, Islam is about the Unity of God and the unity of humanity. I say cherry pick what you like and do what makes you comfortable. In a word, everything. Did I unconsciously appropriate? I was able to find a jewish officiant to marry us, and we had a jewish wedding....some highlights included breaking the glass, and hava negila with us being carried on chairs. In the end religion was not an issue and to this day my parents are happily married.An official conversion would mean you would have to study with a Rabbi and eventually go to the Beit Din in Los Angeles. They should tell you to come as soon as possible. Part of HuffPost Religion. The 3rd date would be the right time to bring up these potential deal breaking questions, if it matters. The Arabic word ‘Islam’ means ‘submission’, and isderived from a word meaning ‘peace’. My boyfriend wants to convert to Islam, should I stay or leave? That's a blessing, not a problem or a shame. Some find their families actually welcomed their choice, and others not so much. Can you see where this is heading? Second, we are the world's single largest Muslim community united under one Imam, His Holiness the Khalifa of Islam Mirza Masroor Ahmad. I do all the other big holidays though. I believe the religion is matrilineal so you would have to convert if you wanted your children to be Jewish. You should not convert yourself just for your boyfriend. I did do Ramadan with him which was really hard but gave me a better insight into the religion. Repetition, practice, study, discipline can lead to self-discovery and realizing some personal truths. I was happy because I thought I can then also marry my boyfriend and we can learn about Islam together. :). So, from Adam to Zoroaster, it is important to study the various faiths. They're not all in English. Reet, unfortunately, not all Muslims are a good representation of what Islam is and from what you say, your boyfriend has some traits that are extremely disliked in Islam. Tell him that you are willing to allow the children to be raised with jewish cultural values but you aren't going to convert. Do you plan to participate in the rituals? I've impressed this upon Adam and encouraged him to visit Sunni and Shia mosques, to speak with various Imams, and to engage with each mosque's membership. My guy is not religious but he does enjoy Christmas. Islam is the future. I say go through with it, as long as it doesn't make you ill. if you were to become a muslim what would be you role at a muslim women or as a muslim wife. He wants me to convert in to Islam. I think what it comes down to is respecting each others' beliefs. In what language are sermons delivered? Yeah. Who is Getty Lee? “Islam for Dummies” was open on his screen. Personally, there are many aspects of Judaism and the culture which are attractive (and others not so much). To my surprise, I soon saw I would never have to present him anything. And second, Islam has created a system to truly unite humanity as it teaches its adherents to accept all these prophets of God. Historically I've been more attracted to non-Jewish guys (usually the Jewish guys felt too much like family, though not in every case). So he is NOT forcing me to discard my own beliefs for a marriage. Have I prepared for the possible family and social backlash? Some Native American tribes perhaps.In most of the world the Jewish identity is dissipating, particularly between generations as most Jews outside of Israel marry non-Jews. You can't achieve the racial characteristics. If you are never going to marry him, leave him. My advice to you is that if you are open to it, learn a little more about Judaism and see if its something that you can live with. why is it that shikzah's love the jewboys and jewish girls could give a rats ass about jewboys? John, don't start quoting getty lee...i may have to send you a friend request. To Jennifer P.:It's not a dealbreaker, but it is something that he would like. I believe there is something and I still have to find a religion that suits me. :P Just Hanukkah. It may be true that some hoity toity hebrew schools won't accept your kids but they probably won't be very progressive either- is that what you want?So what if your kids aren't Jewish according to Jewish law? And hope you're OK with the kids being automatically assigned to a religion. So we want to take our time with getting to know everybody on both sides of our family. I don't know if I would be willing to give up cheeseburgers, though. It's awesome that he's not pressuring you to convert, shows that he's an independent thinker. roomie felt she had to convert because "some" families wouldn't allow her to marry "in" as she called it. And I am totally a shikzah Sara haha. Merriam-Webster chooses Word of the Year. I'm in a serious relationship with a jew-ish guy. However, I did it for the sake of Allah (swt). I finally had to tell him that I would feel so fake talking to all his friends and his pastor that I would probably feel sick. Good luck, Paul. 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